Guys chase, girls wait. Guys bait, girls play hard to get. The best time in a relationship is the start of a relationship. Those dizzy looks in each others eyes, the constant 'iluvus' and 'imizzus', the 'look' of happiness, etc.

As I have heard, the spark for each other will definetely fade, but never the love. That is why the need to focus on other objectives in life to keep the relationship going. Children, career objectives, etc. I guess one thing will never change, that is both parties are to work towards the same objectives and goal.

As I am moving forward to a potential co-habitation situation in the near future, one could not resist the feeling of excitement and also a little bit of worry. I have never known the meaning of living without the parents, nor do I know the meaning of the word 'independant'. The hunt of property to rent in a foreign land overwhelms me. I never knew it could be this hard, and I havent even settled the minor, itty bitty details such as phone lines, internet connection (a must.. otherwise I will just die), division of expenses, transport arrangements, household expenses, etc. etc. Lucky the boyfriend stepped in and told me that he has a personal contact (that could be trusted of course) that could help us find a place (and.. sl, we are not going to move in May 2006 especially for you). The rest of the things would be settled once we get there.

This is our objective. To try to stay together independantly and work in a foreign country(although.. I will be depending on him... so I will be semi-dependant.. heh).

I will be starting work on 19 June 2006, and he, a week earlier. And within that idle week, I will be settling all the minor household stuff and be a housewife for a week. Plus, considering the fact that I want him to go in first so he can tell me what to expect *evil grin* Talk about sacrificing him to the wolves.

It is quite fast isnt it?

I thought a relationship would be like.. dating for a few years before it starts to get really serious. I sincerely would have doubts of whose relationships went to 'serious mode' too fast. Take for example, my friend broke up with the boyfriend of 2 years, got together with another guy and less than a year later they got married. Express relationship. Of course the fact that the other guy was 30++ years old made them tie the knot ASAP. Also for the fact that she knew the guy long before, it is just that they didnt hook up. Back then, I really feared for my friend. I could see that she is happy, but logically speaking, that was not supposed to happen... married within a year of dating? I asked... how would you know him well enough? She said "you will know when it is right".

Enter the present:
Me, dating 2 + months, already discussing the prospects of staying together. I have become what I previously feared.

I guess I now know what my friend means by "you will know it is right". I thought that would only happen gradually through the process of dating and after lots of getting used to each other. I thought after you could get used to each other then only you will know when it is right.

I know everyone who cares about me fears for the worst. Fear that I would be alone and miserable in a foreign land. Fear that if things are going too fast, it would just crash and burn. Yes. I do fear the same things. What goes up must come down.

Right now, I know this is 'right'.

Who knows? Only time will tell whether this is right. Meanwhile, sit back and enjoy the ride.